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Hopefully, the budding emotional intimacy between you will grow and your relationship will be a strong, happy one. For most married couples, a 3-to-5-year age difference, no matter who is older, does not play any role in their relationship.
Having said all that, the issue of your ages needs to be addressed. Despite this fact, some people (like you) are accustomed to thinking, "If someone has to be older, it is better if the guy is the one." This makes sense when a couple is in their late teens and/or early 20s, because a man's social maturity frequently lags behind that of a woman during adolescence and early adulthood.
He makes me feel good, and thinking about him sends shivers up my spine and makes me sigh.
He's so close to what I've always dreamed of that I want to get to know all about him.
(It can become an issue at another point in time, however, if a couple first meets when the woman is close to the end of childbearing years and both would like to start a family.) As far as its effect on the happiness and stability of a marriage, your five-year seniority can only be an issue if the two of you make it one.
While this is supposed to be a wonderful time, it feels soured. Is there any way to be sensitive to their concerns while still maintaining a united front?
Susanna Dear Susanna, You've developed a deep, caring relationship with a man you want to build your life with, and it's only natural for you to want your extended family to be happy for you.
But every time I ask myself if he could be "the one," one thought goes around my mind: He's five years younger than me. He's a calm, sweet guy and I'm a bit more bubbly, and I look and act younger. Barb What concerns us most about your letter isn't the age difference between you and this guy.
But I don't know how to come to terms with the fact that he's 25 and I'm 30. My brain tells me to take my time and get to know him better, and that if someone has to be older, it is better if the guy is the one. I really like him too much to lose him over a rush decision. Rather it's the fact that you keep asking yourself if he's "the one" when you barely know him!